I wonder if the ageist teens on here realise that the “old people” they think are creepy for being fangirls are larger in number than they suspect. I mean, I’m 30, and I’m a raging fangirl in all the good ways and I love it. I have fangirl friends from 16 to 46 and in fangirling we are all on the same level. most, if not all, of us read fanfic. quite a few of my “older” fellow fans write it - and do it almost freakishly well.
in fact, that really good longfic you read that had not only great characterisation but also really lovely, believable sex scenes and a language that flowed really well? odds are that it wasn’t written by a 16-year-old. some great fics are, but I know for sure that in my top ten longfics of all time? maybe one or two was written by someone under 20. half were written by people over or close to 30.
some of the people you fangirl with on a daily basis have husbands, wives, children, jobs and all that other “grown up stuff” you imagine we should be spending our time on instead of flailing about the colour of jensen’s eyes or the perfect shape of jared’s booty. but if you are one of the teens who thinks that “old people” fangirling is gross and creepy, I pity you. because it means you equate getting older with losing enjoyment in the things you love.
I fangirl because it brings me good things. because it’s an escape. because I have a creative outlet. because there are people here who are like me. because it’s just great fun, really. if you think age is in any way relevant in that conversation, you are wrong.
"old" fangirls, out yourself! flaunt your age!
Despite being OLD (and yup, I’m OLD. 39, man! ancient) I do understand younger fans belief that they will ‘grow out of this silliness’. Fandom and fanfic and wasting time with your weird internet friends are called by society silly and immature ways of spending time and energy. It’s for the young who have no friends and nothing better to do. It’s for people with ‘too much’ free time, and no life at all (yet). Once you get ‘a life’ you’ll grow out of these things.
So to you lovely fans who are young (young enough to believe that ‘a life’ is what you are looking for) I have great news for you: Getting a life (a career, a spouse, children of your own, financial independence, a house and a mortgage – however it is you define ‘a life’) does not mean you need to fundamentally change who you are. If you are someone who is passionate about seeing inspiring women in fiction and love to talk about it, why would that change when you are older? If you are someone who sees two characters with fantastic chemistry and continue to think of plots and situations about them long after the movie is over, why would your brain stop doing that because you have kids? If you are passionate about drawing or writing, and TV show characters are the easiest, most inspiring outlet for your talent, why would you stop because you have a career?
Your priorities change, your free time may lessen, your interests may drift to different fandoms, but YOU don’t need to change. YOU don’t need to ‘grow out of this’. Being a part of the fandom culture and all its insanity is who you are. Own it. Be proud of it. Get a life that accepts it, and find a balance with both.
You may change, you may no longer want to read fiction, or look at gifs of Chris Evans’ ass, or capslock your way through liveblogging a season finale – but let that be your choice. And not something that is determined by something as silly as your age.
“(tw:rape) If owning a gun and knowing how to use it worked, the military would be the safest place for a woman. It’s not.
If women covering up their bodies worked, Afghanistan would have a lower rate of sexual assault than Polynesia. It doesn’t.
If not drinking alcohol worked, children would not be raped. They are.
If your advice to a woman to avoid rape is to be the most modestly dressed, soberest and first to go home, you may as well add “so the rapist will choose someone else”.
If your response to hearing a woman has been raped is “she didn’t have to go to that bar/nightclub/party” you are saying that you want bars, nightclubs and parties to have no women in them. Unless you want the women to show up, but wear kaftans and drink orange juice. Good luck selling either of those options to your friends.